Your Struggle is Not Your Identity.
Or is it?
Hello,
It's Sunita here.
Unfortunately, none of us are exempt from the challenges of daily life and the trials and tribulations of being human. Some of us get more than our fair share of obstacles thrown our way. We have no control over the circumstances that we inherit, nor do we control most of the life events that come our way.
So how do you think about your journey. What words come to mind when you picture your life?
That is important for you to know because it has a huge impact on your thoughts. And your thoughts are directing your actions. Especially your unconscious ones.
If the word struggle comes up a lot, then you may want to examine that. Have the difficulties and challenges you face become synonymous with a struggle?
If so, then it is time to find different words to describe your response to whatever is happening in your life.
That will make all the difference.
How do I know?
Because for a large part of my life, I associated my journey with the word struggle. And those of you who have read my book Stripping, My Fight to Find Me know that I had every reason to feel that way. Adverse childhood experiences and trans-generational trauma caused toxic stress, depression, anxiety and whole bunch of other issues for me.
But until I used the word fight, I was a victim.
And victims can't take control of their life. Neither can they find the strength that they possess within themselves. They are looking for others to fix them. And that is impossible because only we can fix ourselves.
Often times with others helping us. But we must be the ones desiring to make things better for ourselves. We must seek help from the right people and we must actively work for and direct our recovery.
So, you see, using the word struggle is not going to be of any use to you when you think of your life.
How does Fight sound instead?
6-6-2025
AS (Actionable suggestion)
Read Rise Above: Overcome a Victim Mindset, Empower Yourself, and Realize Your Full Potential by Dr. Scott Barry Kauffman
Sending you my very best to you for a powerful few weeks,
I’m taking some time off to reflect and recharge,
So, until next time,
Moving forwards in stillness and joy,
Sunita
This post was previously shared on October 26, 2028. I’m delighted to share Dr. Kauffman’s most recent book which elaborates on this theme with stories and of course, his scholarly works.
-Sunita